The Constant hustle

I want you to take a deep breath before you read this , a broader mind and a clean slate perspective--

I look around and everyone is striving, so hard to make a mark, a unique mark where they feel that they are making  the most of themselves and justifying their talents with utmost might. A kind of persuasion  which never existed in the generation before this one ! The  former generation was full of satisfaction and was at ease...on the contrary this latter one is one with a constant hustle -- to do big , to do different and all the more to do something (at least) !

OK I got the point that you should do something with yourself, I completely align with the idea of exploring and keep doing. Infact we are doing extensively as individuals ,we are in a constant desire to prove something, sometimes our worth and sometimes our point of view. We try so so hard each day to be worthwhile even in the minutest of the ways, so my question here is Why??? Why do we have to prove our worth, what if we don't do nothing at all? What if I fall short? What if I am not productive at all?

As humans we have a tendency to move in herds or to follow a certain norms which others set, so once one of them starts the others follow even the lazy bums are influenced by the major mass of  the striving herd and fall in the trap of " Proving your worth". I sometimes feel that the olden times were better when there was no social media...nor the purchasing power...nor this invisible race where everyone is running at a fast pace even at the cost of tumbling down the hill!

The point I want to make through this blog is that if you have the desire and determination for some thing just do it but if not then " IT IS OK" , it is absolutely fine if you don't want to do anything or nothing interests you or even if you just do a  9 to 5 , or if you just sleep and eat to you heart's content "IT'S FINE!" Slow down, cherish yourself, take it easy, know what you  like, just keep reminding yourself how evolved  are you , draw boundaries , experience life and BE WHAT YOU WANT TO BE . For judgements are the part of life and about comparisons  they are nothing but an unwanted tag !

Seeking Validation

Among the whistling crowd i was standing and looking for a familiar face .. a face which i can recognize and smille to ...either someone from the past kept intact in the memory lanes or someone from recent present who knows me to the best of my behaviour...
Thats how we seek people in life... in the bustling streets if we bump into meeting someone we know the smile just takes the whole space...thats how important people are to us .
From the people we don't seek for familiarity but for validation! The things which we are doing becomes much much more worthwhile with the validation of others that our own self confidence gets sideline. . Validation comes in existence in so many ways whether from society,family or friends.
Seeking a companionship is another kind of it...its like validating our existence...they say you should love the person who loves you, who accepts you as you are , who sets you free all this is nothing more than a validation to oneself that you are the best and we love you as you are (thats how selfish the human kind is)
We are always looking for our type of people...people who fine tune with us...with same wavelengths like ours again basically for the validation where you are not challenged for the way you are instead boasted and praised for what you are... in friendships its easy to manage this arrangement but in relationships you have to balance and those non validating moments create rifts and nonabsolving fights...thats how fondly we seek validation.
A mere acquaintance in a complete new place makes us feel like someone close enough to function we are more confident in that space and all the insecurities vanishes.. we wait for the validation of being called nice...beautiful...slim...sexy...sharp...crazy...hep and the list goes on thanks to the social media platform to make it even worse for us..and one of the recent examples for validation are Sarahah where anonymity validates us even more..but the exciting part of validation is it makes us believe much more than what we are.
The tight schedules of today's culture makes the physical presence impossible therefore  these social platforms are gaining more importance thats the only way we get the validation from people.
Why for our existences and choices we look for acceptance? Why can't we set ourselves free and leave it on the the outcome to decide? Why we want people to review us from time to time? Be yourself and be free and see how it turns your life around..even if its good for noone but you, you will be glad to do it for your own self!
Seeking validation is still fine but just be dependent on it for every decision or self review can be discouraging and harmful. Know yourself and beam about it and don't wait for any kind of validation to happen for yourself...because come what may its you who knows yourself the best not the validation which is coming your way..

Wanted ----- "Compassion"

Sometimes while crossing a particular street or even our neighborhood beach I cease to understand the kind of inequality our world faces, why there are no equal parameters to live in this world. The rich become more rich and the poor more poorer. They say to stabalise the economy we want both kind of sections in the society but what kind of stabalisation are we talking about when the treatment towards humanity is totally unfair. Last weekend I happen to visit a beach nearby which happens to be beautiful otherwise was fully covered with the layer of filth including plastics...wrappers...bottles and what not. After looking at the whole place I was wondering what will be the plight of the cleaners will be who clean the whole beach everyday, being a rich country they can afford to have lot of Asian crowd to work for them in a very reasonable prices; still its so unfair to them what kind of social behavior is that where one person attains a position of such a strata that he doesn't thinks twice before messing the place up and not only that what happened to our so called environment friendly approach? What about all the remarks and comments people debate for on global warming! It really melts down my heart to see that there are people who don't even get one meal per day and then there are people who just waste the whole feast away, although there are lot of programs which are now channelizing the food being wasted to the needy. But do you thing that only a chunk of people can achieve the task? When the humankind started everything revolved around food from hunting to inventing fire, then later it was said that all the wealth is finally needed to for eating a times meal, but as a human being we evolved and evolved and then we reached another level where food is still the bare minimum but the focus has shifted from how to earn the meal ; to how to strike a deal. I wish we became more considerate and compassionate to our fellowkind,hold a little more responsibility towards environment and instead of making a big deal out of pity things in our surroundings lets take a bit more charge of how can we contribute more in making others life better keeping this planet in consideration and atleast not for granted! Pic Source: Tumbler

Virtual Vanity

Do you remember , when was the last time we were human beings far away from our virtual projection(projection indeed). Virtual being is preferred for a number of reasons in my opinion:
Firstly, because we like living in the projection, somewhere,it is that ideal which we seek in ourselves day in and out.

Secondly, because it takes you far away from the daily tribulations into a world of our imagination and dreams.

Thirdly and importantly because of the ease of use (thanks to the Smartphone technology). Your friends and loved ones are with you invariably 24*7.

Have you ever kept a track of how many places you log in with your account, what events your account shares, what sites are using your email id e.t.c. We are so virtually exposed and engaged that we hardly realize to talk to people around, instead slot in with what’s app and FB. Recently Fb had come with “your life story” and people who are no-where near your zone are suddenly interested in that so called look Back.
I am sure that most of us have people in our friends list with whom we didn’t even speak once when they were around!  Gradually and  this virtual presence is now becoming so important and a must have for everyone. Instagram, twitter, pintrest, vingle are like social icons for the youngsters. Not even them even these but the celebrities, politicians, entreprenuers, and sportsperson too have made these a medium to connect with the mango people
Facebook is like a bulletin board, instagram a photo album, twitter an announcement platform ,pintrest like a craft manifestation, youtube like a tv channel. And now you read the above lines again without the apps name, you would be forced to think that until few years back those were the activities which served as ways to spend time with family and friends.
All this aside even the Indian passport department has proposed to release e-passports for the citizens of india from the next year..life is becoming so digitalised and far away from the real relationships.
Being in touch is always the good part of these social mediums but if that being in touch with far away people distants you with people around you, then technology has byfar taken the notch above relationships,  where eye to smartphone contact is much preferable than eye to eye contact. Balance the technology tactfully, rejoice both virtual and  actual presence of self, so that you don't regret the time lost in future.

Where do we stop??

A scene
A person from a small village---"There is no scope in this village for my future i wanna go to the city to work"
Same person in the city----"There is not enough salary to work in the city i wanna go to a metro city"
In Mumbai----“phew! There is so much traffic ...pollution...fast paced life...how do i survive...its better to work in Dubai"
In dubai--- “Things aren't like India...nothing like back home...my village was the best place"

OMG where do we stop??? Did u get the whole idea of writing this story above...these kind of stories i often hear off..with people who just want to run away from the present situation and the place is a mere reason to back it...
Ask yourself where do we stop??? Lets skip the places...we do the same pattern with all the kind of choices we make in life!!!The core problem what it seems to me is the generation....we want all the things faster ..smarter...better...we can't wait...its a haste generation what they call..
Have u heard of any of our parents or older people talking about their nonstop future desires...probably they also talked about it in younger ages...but we are way ahead...life before was peaceful n less competitive...having a property..funds...car was rare luxury....
Now these things are everyday luxury ..with the technological , well marketed and over customized world has brought everything on a click...
Our generation doesn't value...coz we never had to do any efforts to get these...they were never beyond our limits and always were over in abundance...we should sit back n admire our possessions once coz only acquiring doesn't finishes the conquest....
There is no definition of enough.....how much is enough??? I want to save enough.....i want to put aside for my child enough....the point here is for whomsoever u r earning this enough for...is growing up(child) ...growing old ( u n ur spouse)....time is flying..
Take time off...set limits to your goals...set up a benchmark of ur satisfaction....and work towards it...running with blinkers to win a race will never take you where you want to go...and even if you win the race...the people you were running for would be  left way behind... Think!