Wipe off the Temerity

Its disheartening to see when today's world treats simplicity with mediocrity and showoff with grandeur. It disappointing to locate people around you so indulged in their own selves that the humility and kindness are fading away...
That every kind gesture is taken for granted and that each word of yours makes you vulnerable enough to be commented upon Its really sad that the world enjoys negativity  in such a fruitful way,that every luxury is just treated as a mere average.
It make my heart twich to feel where are we heading and what do we achieve in turning the people down everytime inspite of their best efforts.i wish we become a change and stand out in this world, where we recognize everyone for their efforts instead of measuring their importance to us.

Its a sinking feeling but we shall arise eventually where we will give respect to relations..things..friendships..where loyalties will find its set places, where not everything or everyone readily available will be just overlooked  . Everyone is unique  with their own value system and has something different to offer to our set of skills. Start here. Start now. Be the change, value the universe! Work hard, Stay Humble.

Slow down

Slow down a bit there is to much to go for
Slow down a bit and enjoy it all
In no time everything will change
And later you will regret it all
Slow down a bit its not a race to finish
Slow down a bit this phase will also diminish You will wonder where did the years ran away
I was young just a while ago making the moments fray..
Slow down a bit to look at your body sometimes Slow down a bit and make it worthwhile Thrash the ego, wear a smile, leave your mark in everyones heart
Because you know soon it will all become past Slow down a bit make time for your family
Slow down a bit dont let the stress sway
A life so small to live is running away so far away We are holding up the grudges to make our speed slow and fray
Miss it or make most of it is the option we have to get away
Slow down a bit to travel to explore the world so big
Slow down a bit to relish a 5 course meal!
Spend the time with people you love
Or follow your heart's passion with a great deal Slow  down a bit there you are running too fast Slow down a bit there is much more to life than only that!

Handling the Mom's factor

While writing this I am somehow managing to play Snakes and Ladders with my 4.5 year old as well as with my 1 year who is pulling my hair with all the force he could...I decided to write on being a multitasking mother.. Sometimes I wish I had atleast 6 flexible hands instead of 2 fixed ones to handle the pressure called for, in that case I could write with my two hands and the other two can cook and the rest 2 could take the tantrums of these kids..but lesser that we know what we are capable of suddenly comes in the light with Parenting.
Okay I am a stay at home Mom.. and I chose it, taking care of my kids and subsiding my career, don't be judgmental about it as I can do more things of my interest like blogging, baking, reading and ofcourse the daily chores comes along..as a kid my Mom never thought that I would be a good indian wife because I really sucked at cooking, I hated all clothes related chores and on top of that i was in hostel for fairly more amount of time than at my home. But with time my interest flaired and thanks to motherhood to fill in the gaps.. Then and now I came a long way learning to handle so much in so less.
There are so many days when the day seems so long and tough ,then there are other days when the hugs and kisses make the day shorter...having 2 boys under one roof with one of them being a naughty toddler I sometimes ran out of ideas to make them happy as well as to keep my interests intact with the energy draining out.
I am adviced a lot of times to hire Nannys. ..cooks...full time maid..but somehow I fail to keep up with the idea.Being SAHM is difficult and it really takes everything out of you starting from your day's piece of mind to your night's sound sleep! Frankly you just lose it everyday for a while but the rest of the time, just makes up for it😊
All the stay at home Mom's don't loose hope..you are doing the best 24*7 job in the world but in the midst don't forget yourself and keep following your passion...whether it is tiniest of anything...it will soon become a place of vent out and a change!A place u will feel rejuvenated and happy about.

Live free ❤

With a room full of so called society or people how often can we be ourselves...our real selves and not what the people around us want us to be..? Always worrying about our image potrayal..our should be's...our right ways...our deceptive  good manners !
This society being judgemental finishes the game before it even starts, the rules of this game is simple- it says to suffer to keep the other people happy. If you follow this by ignoring your ownself you will be epic and unbeatable.
Okay! I agree we need people around to survive being a social animal but not on the cost of our own inconvinience... we need company to cherish, celebrate, compassion and comprehend and not  for pleasing some people who don't even bother about you.Anyways what standards are we talking about and who is there to test it; everyone has flaws and hence the fake and fancy outer shield becomes important.
Society is made by group of individuals who are like us, we are the one who are  deciding the ways of life and list of acceptables  of unacceptables. God didn't gave us our manual book along because none of us are same ....neither we are machines, we are just people with our respective genres, when we can't judge colours as to why they are light or deep, when we can't judge trees to be green and water to be blue how can we judge different  people onto some humanly created standards, rituals, superstitions. We have accepted all the things around us in the nature as they are because we know we cannot do anything  about it..its the way the nature naturally is! Then why not people? Why not accept them as they are?
Our society has meagred to an extent of competition thanks to our humanly created categories of brands and non brands! The base of which is so undulating and vague because what is best in ones eyes need not be best in another one. I fail to understand this whole criterion where anyone who is being himself is ripped apart on the verge of society's acceptance.
Life is given as a one time lottery ticket to encash and enjoy. If we start living every moment without slogging ourselves to please people around we will surely make memories rather than just walking through life. It will indeed create some misunderstanding in the beginning but gradually people will accept you as you are .

Live and let live

Like likelihood

Like what you do....love what you want to do....lf u like it just do it...
Whether its weirdest of things or most unusual in nature..believe me just do it...coz every bit of it will reflect u and who u are...
Get sorted...aim for the next day...plan the time way ahead ..schedule-reschedule do whatever it takes...and do exactly u want to do..
You'll be surprised that more than half of the hurdles get cleared with only the decision of doing it!
Like..love and live it and life will be enthralling you with its wondrous gifts...the serenity and satisfaction of doing something...in spite it being just sleeping till late one morning..
We often sideline our passions and likes....it is important redeem life sometimes..
Redeem your thoughts...hopes...expression... hobbies....
Inculcate habits...plan days...prioritize  ur work order... tackle miseries...
Take up one habit at a time...it becomes easy to inculcate...be creative..positive and confident
Smile and decrease the degree of the hurdles...sometimes in act liking things and u will seriously end up liking it...
A change in perception is required to change the picture...change it often to broaden ur thought dimensions...
Meet...mingle and melt with people around even with the people with  different frequencies...
Travel often..it makes u feel alive. .take up a rocky road or climb uphill a change in the routine is highly appreciated...
So live life king size...laugh...love...meet...mingle...melt..travel....accept...forgive...be positive and rule the world...

Escapism

A mere wish...a long run dream....a hard chosen wisdom...but i really want it ------to be carefree...
Away from the world's grudges, life's montony, indifferent people and unpredictable circumstances...
Escapism is the word...the word i look for being carefree...
I feel thats why God made death when he created life...thats the ultimate freedom of body...not soul though!
The multiples of responsibilities are found everyday in so many ways..what to keep up n what to loose is all on us....
I wanna run away from choices , they drive u crazy...why there is a concept of choice...
Why cant a thing be done in just one way....a single way...a single thing
I wanna run away from the confusion of the limits to let ppl in your life...why cant God have some signs named good and bad!
Ppl you think r gud...definitely they are gud enugh to shatter you n go...n the ones u think are bad...are really bad to express what they really are..
I wanna run away from shackles of do and donts....who decides the donts...n rather who cares...everything today is a fad...
I wanna run away from the bias judgements and endless suggestions of the ppl...Oh my God ...get life! Give space and take space however much u want...let the person be alone..we are not machines that we will need instruction manuals....just let the person be..
I wanna run away from this artificiality and nonsense formality which makes no meaning...either u do or u dnt...just chuck it.. all r grown ups here..we understand with what u say n behave...
I wanna run away from the unwanted actions forced upon u...u should do this to get this....always incentive based emotional atyachaar...
I wanna run away from my expressive nature and heart...why this heart cant just do the simple work of pumping blood rather getting into complex issues of love n expectations...
I wanna run away from the fake smiles and fancy whereabouts i wish the face and outer attire could indicate with a colour whether it is genuine or fake...
I wanna be me ....my way not every time but at least one time in a day....the time only mine...whr i do n live my way...
I wanna sort myself...just like emptying the whole toy box...and putting it again piece by piece..with wat fits where types....
Just wanna fly free although i wudnt be able to fly too high coz i wud miss the weight of responsibility on my wings...

Anchor acquisition.

We all look forward to an anchor in life...
Anchor in form of a human being not necessarily our life partner or somebody we love or close to...
An anchor could be anybody
Who ignites the determination...
Who satisfy self..
Who helps in recognizing the passion..
Who takes us to our desired platform..
Finding an anchor is our major milestone to finish the life's journey..
Some of us find love in between and settle down thinking it as "the one"
some of them fall flat with a broken heart chasing an undesirable one..
Some cling to the wrong anchor and some just pass by them..
It takes sometimes the entire life to reach to an anchor...and some live without it tooo...
Now how will u know at any stage that u found ur anchor...
We will nt even try finding the answer to this question..this question might not even struck after the discovery..
That anchor takes us along the life journey not making it pain less...but definitely, much meaningful and light..
The good part of the story is..we all are also anchors ..to somebody or another....
I m looking for mine...it might give me more reasons to love myself...i m gearing myself up in quest of the right one!

Elective Raising..

This is something i have been seeing for a while....or may be when i m in the shoes...thats why i tumbled upon it...
There are always choices around us...
What we choose makes us what we are..
But the choices once ignored are haunted all over...
I go to parks ...malls everywhere n i hardly see  kids with their mothers...n being a mother i ask myself HOW? do these ladies do that...
I must salute to their courage..
Why we want our responsibilities delegated....
For a little less work...for a little extra effort...for a little more convenience....n a free life as it was before without a kid....
How cn we pass on the most cherishable part of our lives to somebody else...somebody we hardly know....somebody with unfamiliar backgrounds..
Has independence....money...n proving self is more important than raising your own baby...
Is it really Reluctant raisers vs. Enthusiastic ones
No offence to ppl reading it ..who must also be doing it...its a point of view n nt a claim..
But the fact remains....
"Children will not remember you for the material things you provided but for the feeling that you cherished them with."

Chaotic currency

If the currency of this age would have been tears...everything would have been a lot easier...trading with tears would have solved it all...with a lot of pain around and agony along it was better to have that trade come on! However much we try to deal with it...these tear trails never stop...as females we would have been richest of all...kingdoms of wealth on our part...never would have been misbehaved but enthralled...
I wish that era comes at all!!wen tears cud speak the way money speaks today...i know ppl will second my thought cos every currency brings their cons along..
No currency cn bring peace whether knowledge, war,money or tears..it just brings chaos and gall..
Everything goes for a toss wen currency takes a flight...it ruins the heart n minds...the nature of it has supreme power to destroy it all....
Phew!!! Now i think there should be no currency at all...bartars were doing good to humanity...lets start it with a new call...

Craving for Cribbing

We always have that craving of exotic holidays,relishing food, foreign trips,immense love,amazing car n so on... We crave to our grave about something or the other..but I have realised a thing that we crave to just satisfy our habit to crib...the funniest part here is, say u got the car u wished...still u will be having 1000s of reason to crib bout it..I really don't know why it happens with us but it does....there are very less ppl who are happy wih the way thy live..as they have accepted their lives with open heart and achievable desires...but everyone of us should sit and think that of all the things we have...how many do we don't crib about...Even in relationships we crave to have "Someone Special" and when u get a chance to spend your lifetime with him/her.. guess what? Still the cribbing is on...i think this is the first characterstic God has imbibed in us while making human beings..so enjoy cribbing :)))) and don't crib about it ;)

Those 21 days

Lately my brother in law and I decided to take up a thing which we want to include in our daily routine but are not able to..to do the same we decided to follow a tried out method of 21 days...according to that method if you do a thing continuously and regularly for 21 days ..bang on..it becomes your habit..sounds easy ?? But it isn't ...21 days ..forget it I will notbe able to do it continuously for 10 dAys or so...those 21 days are not for ur habit but I think for ur determination...determination comes with the result if u do anything for 21 days..definately the result will come and hence the determination...I have took up the option of two things to jog for 20 min daily and to write daily...although both of them are quite easy ones ...but the lack of determination steals it all...let's see if I can do justice to what I have taken up for these 21 days..and at least let my determination built up..

Constant judmental

The forever on going thing which we come across is being "judgemental" or "judged"
By the way my question is ..who gives us the power of being judgemental about other person's life
Proving things right or worng is nobody's business coz who has termed or certified their theory of correctness
Everybody has the right and freedom of living in their own way, carry their own perspective.
Constant judgemental is faced in almost all situations whether:
making decision, performing action, appreciation/criticism,maintaining relations
This fear is somewhere deep inside all of us .
Running away or not performing is not the solution instead belief and avoidance is
Believe in yourself and rest will fall in place ..
Avoid it so that it does not weakens you and you can go on with ur own set of virtues..
BE YOURSELF

Birds of feather flock together...

True indeed...birds of feather flock together
To fit into others frame of mind we tend to behave like them ..in a flock
But once we become friends we just loose that added characterstic...
Thats why a lot of times we make friends real soon and loose them sooner than that
Its hard to maintain our individuality in order to please people
It is rightly said that we everybody around u is happy with u then something is wrong as u can't please everybody!
We shoud carry our own attire while making new relationships so that they last long..
Coz only genuine relationships accepts u as u are..

Wrong=/=Right

An intresting thought to think about is--
Even after knowing what is right and what is wrong..why do we choose to pick a "wrong"
There are tonnes of times in our lives
whether little ones or the bigger ones...
We knowningly choose something inappropraite..
Sometimes to satisfy the ego...or to fulfill family'e desire...or when left with no option...
Think if everyone of us just picks what is appropriate in a situation....
we'll be left with half of such sitautions...

"Mindless Heart" or "Heartless Mind"

Phew...a tough option to choose...
My instinct and my experiences say there are only two types of people
One with "Mindless Heart" and the other with " Heartless Mind"
I definately fall in the first category though
"Heartless Minds" are mighter than the former and believe that whatever they do is right...
"Mindless Hearts" on the other hand are softer, as they think not with their minds but emotions..
Imagine heart doing both mind's and heart's function and same goes for mind..
No wonder why people falling in both of these do some wrong

Haste ..what a waste..

Haste wastes everything around..
Sometimes the decision taken in haste takes all what you have earned from u...
In my own life haste had gulped most of my priced possesions..
When i look back to those decisions they all look so absurd and amusing
Although they seemed perfect while making choices
So here i finally term the three important D's in any body's life
--Desicion
--Determination
--Discipline
If we achieve all these three than life is a wonderful place to live
Most importantly than these three is another D called " Desire"
Haste can be avoided if these are followed in exactly the way they are written
As we cant go anticlock..all we can do is to stick to them now on..
Hope this works!!

Experiences' Mouthpiece

I have concluded some things on based of my experience in life till date:

1. Everybody is in the race of success and wealth...and the worst part it ..if u are not in the race...phew u are damn inferior and out of the league
2. It should not matter what the other person is saying or doing..we should just do what we want to do with full happiness and satisfaction ...absolutely no comparisions!
3.There is no relationship as "best friend" ..all are friends at their own convience.
4. More time given to a person = you are taken for granted and you are treated as completely vella
5. Job is the only religion and nothing else
6. Socialising is a myth , privacy and please leave me alone are in fashion.
7. The stronger you behave, the weaker you are taken.

Either my way of living is too different or may be wrong but i really wanna say this--People please start living this is just one life one time..just listen,smile,chuck and move on..Talk your way out instead of those perceptions..people say they don't have time...what they are saying is cent percent correct...they don't have time to live,laugh,talk or rather exist!

Expression embeded words..

Randomly think about any word say "COLOURS"
the word itself is so vibrant and mesmerizing
Or lets say "COMFORTABLE"
I m so sure u feel that as soon as u pronounce that
The mood swings with the words "SAD","HAPPY","ANGRY"
The word "IRRITATING"
makes u feel the same and even worse
Say "MONEY" and we find ways to get it or rather spend it
How these words and there usage brings them to life
Words can express a lot more than us
I sometimes think why these words don't have that much of a power
to control mind...
Think if we would say "THINK" then only it would think
If we would say "TENSION" then only it will take tension..
If these words could control mind ..half of the problems would vanish..
For now lets say " PEACE" ...my mind is ticking to it...

A new address

I have a "NEW ADDRESS"!
Its another way of saying that i have bought a new home..
its a great feeling to own and design
To fill it it with all the ideas u had till date of your dream home
I have been doing the design stuff since 4-5 months
I have seen it becoming a home from house
and now finally it is over...
Have tried to bring ideas to realty..lets see how much justice have i done
But can't believe that what was on paper till yesterday
Is real today!!
I hope this home continues to stay a dream home..with all the joys fulfilled

The ecstasy called "Shopping"

OMG..I was coveting to write bout shopping...
Personally there's only one thing i do with full zest and that is "Shopping"
This addiction is also termed as Oniomania...
I recently watched a movie called confessions of a shopaholic..
I loved the flick..the way they have shown the mindset of a shopaholic
How when the actor passes by the store, the mannequin urges her to buy.
But it actually happens..the same way..uncontrollable
Later in the movie.. the guru who helps in reducing the shopping suggests
Whenever you wanna buy any stuff ..just ask yourself --" do u need it "
So i tried this onetime ...and first the answer came no..but then it came ..may be not ..i don't have the same colour...
The pleasure of having the possession post purchase is divine
That feeling of ownership fills your heart with so much of content
Shopping also overcomes the mood swings...
I am telling you ..whoever doen't enjoy shopping is missing one of the good things in life..
The colours..textures..just woo your heart away..into an another world..
I may be speaking french for some but for others who understand what i am saying this will surely click :)))