Seeking Validation

Among the whistling crowd i was standing and looking for a familiar face .. a face which i can recognize and smille to ...either someone from the past kept intact in the memory lanes or someone from recent present who knows me to the best of my behaviour...
Thats how we seek people in life... in the bustling streets if we bump into meeting someone we know the smile just takes the whole space...thats how important people are to us .
From the people we don't seek for familiarity but for validation! The things which we are doing becomes much much more worthwhile with the validation of others that our own self confidence gets sideline. . Validation comes in existence in so many ways whether from society,family or friends.
Seeking a companionship is another kind of it...its like validating our existence...they say you should love the person who loves you, who accepts you as you are , who sets you free all this is nothing more than a validation to oneself that you are the best and we love you as you are (thats how selfish the human kind is)
We are always looking for our type of people...people who fine tune with us...with same wavelengths like ours again basically for the validation where you are not challenged for the way you are instead boasted and praised for what you are... in friendships its easy to manage this arrangement but in relationships you have to balance and those non validating moments create rifts and nonabsolving fights...thats how fondly we seek validation.
A mere acquaintance in a complete new place makes us feel like someone close enough to function we are more confident in that space and all the insecurities vanishes.. we wait for the validation of being called nice...beautiful...slim...sexy...sharp...crazy...hep and the list goes on thanks to the social media platform to make it even worse for us..and one of the recent examples for validation are Sarahah where anonymity validates us even more..but the exciting part of validation is it makes us believe much more than what we are.
The tight schedules of today's culture makes the physical presence impossible therefore  these social platforms are gaining more importance thats the only way we get the validation from people.
Why for our existences and choices we look for acceptance? Why can't we set ourselves free and leave it on the the outcome to decide? Why we want people to review us from time to time? Be yourself and be free and see how it turns your life around..even if its good for noone but you, you will be glad to do it for your own self!
Seeking validation is still fine but just be dependent on it for every decision or self review can be discouraging and harmful. Know yourself and beam about it and don't wait for any kind of validation to happen for yourself...because come what may its you who knows yourself the best not the validation which is coming your way..

Evaporating Moments

There are lots of moments which just pass by
And then there are some which are due for a long while
Some carry their full expression
And some which just stand by
I have some moments enclosed in my fist
Dying to crossfly
Keeping them close and warm i treasure them everyday
Because i know once i open they will evaporate away
Those small moments of love and care which gives a whole new meaning to everyday..
It seems like yesterday with all those memories building up..but remember there will be no new day like yesterday..
There are moments which mark your life imprinting its memory so strong but yet they go unrecognised with the "future planning" blinkers coming in their way..
Future unseen, unexperienced but yet so tempting that "today" is frayed
Content can surpass the expectation only if you want it to be in your mind
There are no bounds to success and no bounds to fortune but you have to choose  a path which matches your definition of  "right"...
This is what your whole wealth is in your human life , of how you lived with your Karma held up tight.
Making moment to treasure and keeping them as keepsakes for all your lives.
So start make moments right away  as you have the moment machine and there is still not much delay..
Steer your wheels to "today",living in the moment so that you never regret any of the each passing day..

The Firangi fantasy

I never understood what curiosity and interest we Indians have towards the firangis...
Recently i visited a wedding ceremony and by chance there were a few firangis dressed up in indian traditional attire....to my surprise the the firangs were watched more than the bride n groom themselves..
We always have this fascination towards the colour, towards our rituals being accepted by them. Generally they back home would be normal people but definitely treated specially here...
So the whole nazara or call it a scenario was like all the eyeballs were sticking out to them, whatever they were eating those stalls were full, wherever they were going the camera was shooting them.
In the whole situation I was wondering what big-a-deal is it? Why were they treated like some bollywood celebrity? Everyone needs recognition but when the the nation as a whole gets recognition the people go over the top to show their happiness and that pulls down the image of our country.
I pity on us sometimes. With such a rich cultured, deep rooted, vivid nation of ours which is full of talent and outstanding abilities , we still are star struck by someone so different. But its all natural we always awe for the things we dont experience. Experience enriches the mind but leaves the interest barren. The irony somehow is that the westeners now want to adapt hinduism, yoga, shastra and what not to become desi!
In addition to all said above , no offence, Indians staying out of India carry a false image of todays India and what it is capable of! Every nation has its own Ps and Qs , pros and cons; so what if in the prevailing times cons are more, but we are capable and worth of lot more pros. Till then we have to confide and  stick to our roots, we have lot more to pay off to our country than we think!

Virtual Vanity

Do you remember , when was the last time we were human beings far away from our virtual projection(projection indeed). Virtual being is preferred for a number of reasons in my opinion:
Firstly, because we like living in the projection, somewhere,it is that ideal which we seek in ourselves day in and out.

Secondly, because it takes you far away from the daily tribulations into a world of our imagination and dreams.

Thirdly and importantly because of the ease of use (thanks to the Smartphone technology). Your friends and loved ones are with you invariably 24*7.

Have you ever kept a track of how many places you log in with your account, what events your account shares, what sites are using your email id e.t.c. We are so virtually exposed and engaged that we hardly realize to talk to people around, instead slot in with what’s app and FB. Recently Fb had come with “your life story” and people who are no-where near your zone are suddenly interested in that so called look Back.
I am sure that most of us have people in our friends list with whom we didn’t even speak once when they were around!  Gradually and  this virtual presence is now becoming so important and a must have for everyone. Instagram, twitter, pintrest, vingle are like social icons for the youngsters. Not even them even these but the celebrities, politicians, entreprenuers, and sportsperson too have made these a medium to connect with the mango people
Facebook is like a bulletin board, instagram a photo album, twitter an announcement platform ,pintrest like a craft manifestation, youtube like a tv channel. And now you read the above lines again without the apps name, you would be forced to think that until few years back those were the activities which served as ways to spend time with family and friends.
All this aside even the Indian passport department has proposed to release e-passports for the citizens of india from the next year..life is becoming so digitalised and far away from the real relationships.
Being in touch is always the good part of these social mediums but if that being in touch with far away people distants you with people around you, then technology has byfar taken the notch above relationships,  where eye to smartphone contact is much preferable than eye to eye contact. Balance the technology tactfully, rejoice both virtual and  actual presence of self, so that you don't regret the time lost in future.

Completed 8 at planet Kuwait;)

Planet?....definitely....it has all the characteristics of a planet!
Generally we say time flies...i wish i could have said the same thing for this place too...
U might be curious why? Coz i m without a car n u r im mobile without a car here..so m mostly at home...(writing this)
The culture...the people although are totally different yet enticing..
The glitterati and the flashiness of the country continues from the highest to the minutest levels...
From a diamond embedded car door handles to diamond embedded iphone back covers..
I was amazed with the choice of clothes and how much u can pile one on another while wearing...
Eyes are the sight taken by...the phrase which says eyes is the mirror of the beauty...stand true here...
The desert and the sea...make it stand apart....the controversial nature of the two gives the country the strength it requires..
The noisy beach gives u so much peace at heart and the silent desert forces to self quest..
M nt forgetting the biggest sequences fireworks...which the government bombed their money on was vibrant n worth watching..
The food n delicacies are yummy although the name of the dishes sounds a little weird...shieshas are the favourite pass time...u'll find many joints..
Shopping is THE WORD....from traditional souqs to our dear avenues(mall)
U will find everything here from everywhere in the world...any brand, u name it u have it!
All in all its an experience in itself...the culture is rich and their dedication to pray is in unwavering..
But out of all these factor my biggest factor to stay here is my sibling of course....i m lucky enough to share the same city as hers..thanks to a lot of people who made us so comfortable and at ease...
So completed 8  months at planet q8 and many more to go...lets see how it goes...have to see a lot more sides of this magnificent city. Stay tuned!!!