Good old days

After looking at our parents I feel that their generation has lived the best of all the times, neither they were technology dependent nor were full of such demanding aspirations. They have the best of both the eras although they have very well accepted the new way of life still they firmly follow their older selves. Nothing can beat the hard work and discipline which our Fathers have and we are no where near to our Mothers' dedication,devotion and sacrifices. The new generation Moms although are hi-tech with all the resources which were hardly available before, crib about their style of life and how much they have to do in how less of a time.They managed so well with less than half of the resources and double the satisfaction we have. They used to sleep peacefully, cook their heart out, listen deeply and devoted the whole time in raising the kids.
They had a comparatively toned down life too, less of TV, internet and WIFI ,although they were missing out on a lot of things we do nowadays but it hardly mattered that time because there was no thing like that before (you only miss a thing after you get introduced to it)life seemed so calm and sorted out. There was no pressure of replying a blue ticked message on what's app; or liking a photo ;or wishing a birthday; or tweeting/ instagramming. You had a better way to escape the unwanted things without being caught red handed about avoiding the same.
There were no cell phones and believe me people existed, travelled even delivered babies without being informed over the mobile phone. Telegrams, postcards , handwritten letter always kept people on toes waiting for the postman to arrive, it must have been enticing to be not in touch , people knew the real meaning of the word missing and not like today when we are so available that we are hardly taken seriously by anyone.
The work for females was  only  profounded  to family and household, I am glad we are brought up in that way, I cannot imagine my Mom gone away when I came back from school! They were only expected to sew, cook, look after the house errands and kids, though they gave the whole lot of energies to build our foundations, but after becoming a Mom myself I have realized what a mammoth responsibility it is! To do even that much, to look after the house and the kids with all the facilities take up my whole day I don't know how did my Mom do so well with no support at all.
Money was important I feel but not was a primary motive, like today's world where everyone is running in an invisible, unending race to achieve something that is so material that it takes a toll on the relationships as well as health. For them the relationships were foremost  with an added advantage of a close knitted families to lean on for an extra care and support. The festivals were joyous,pompous and more meaningful not like today's where half are celebrated half heartedly and the other half are forgotten admist of all the lingering...I don't know how much we can pass on to our kids, the rituals,the reason to celebrate a particular occassion.
Also i realised that at their time the health issues were not as common as there are now like every second person has some or the other problem, they led a healthier lives with early to bed and early to rise unlike our late nights' schedule.
Migration towards the big cities have increased manifolds leaving the parents alone on their own..no one can help this scenario but yes it is difficult for us as well as them, our parents who are left behind feeling lonely..and we getting nuclear and distant day by day ...hope we take a u turn sometime soon, ofcourse not leaving the resources we have now towards a better quality and calmer version of our lives passing on a rich cultural values to the coming generation.

The Uncalled TV detox

Day 1: Without TV

It was a bright sunny day and the 30th birthday of my dear brother in law on the April 7th when it crashed! My kids and my heart 
was deeply crushed with the sight of it. I was  trying with whole lot of new batteries and the buttons on the tv as well as the
remote, hoping for some magic to happen and it turns on..but all thanks to my badluck ,all efforts were going in vain. The home suddenly fely
so dull and quiet (ofcourse the background noise of my kids are always there). I didn't loose hope and thought to try my again in evening.
The evening also brought dismay and there was nothing to be done.

Day 2: Without tv

Our dear TV was suffering and we were suffering even more as we are so used to his presence, it was a friday, a weekend so the
customer care was out of reach and we din't have any other option than to just wait for the weekend to finish. With handful of two kids by your side it was hard to keep them entertained without TV.But somehow I managed with sorting the other sibling battles

Day  3:Without TV

We are missing watching tv so much,specially my younger son ..as his favourite nursery rhymes are no longer showing up on the screen
he is giving me the remote again and again  indicating to start it, it was a misery to watch crushing his expectation although
IPAD came to rescue still my TV has no comparisons. It was standing still and blank waiting for us to help.

Day 4: Without TV

The first thing in the morning i did was calling the customer care and they came and took the TV ! It is gone and we are feeling
lonely without it..no more cartoons or songs or daily soaps...life seemed so cruel and empty

Day 5: Without TV

It may take a while to get it ok may be 3 days to a week!i am so clueless to what to do ...as if i am missing my best friend
someone who comforts me when i am down (except coffee)..someone who wakes me up to a brighter day...someone who will not mind even if i change the channels
endlessly...someone whom my sofaset faces towards..Its so unusual how we get attached to all these electronics as if it was a
real person entertaining day in and out...In the hope to hear to the customer care soon i pass my time.
.....to be continued

Evaporating Moments

There are lots of moments which just pass by
And then there are some which are due for a long while
Some carry their full expression
And some which just stand by
I have some moments enclosed in my fist
Dying to crossfly
Keeping them close and warm i treasure them everyday
Because i know once i open they will evaporate away
Those small moments of love and care which gives a whole new meaning to everyday..
It seems like yesterday with all those memories building up..but remember there will be no new day like yesterday..
There are moments which mark your life imprinting its memory so strong but yet they go unrecognised with the "future planning" blinkers coming in their way..
Future unseen, unexperienced but yet so tempting that "today" is frayed
Content can surpass the expectation only if you want it to be in your mind
There are no bounds to success and no bounds to fortune but you have to choose  a path which matches your definition of  "right"...
This is what your whole wealth is in your human life , of how you lived with your Karma held up tight.
Making moment to treasure and keeping them as keepsakes for all your lives.
So start make moments right away  as you have the moment machine and there is still not much delay..
Steer your wheels to "today",living in the moment so that you never regret any of the each passing day..

Click-o-logy

Have you ever noticed that there are some people we just get attached to in a brief conversation and then there are some with whom we take years to connect...and then there are times where  we misjudge the friendships! We really do, misconception about a person hinders our attraction or fondness towards that person and instead of choosing the right one,we just choose the limelight one and then that kind of friendship doesnt lasts long.
Ever wondered  how in a short span of time the frequency matches. It feels as if you have known the person for years or like your words are filled in their mouth ( I mean she is just like me )sometimes the likemindedness, similar experiences, similar situations or similar choices connects you to the other person's stigma.
I am totally a people's person and i believe strongest bond relationships in everyday life, imprinting a  mark is the best thing can be done in one's life
Without a companion life goes rough but without a likeminded person it just goes wasted.
Met someone recently or years ago with the conversation which ignites a spark in your mind leaving you with the joy of talking onl!y that is the one who will carry your loads off and will bring out the best in you..don't evwr let them go off your radar and treasure them for life.

Regret Nothing

Why to regret
For the things which you never got to hold
They were things of past which you desired
But they didn't mean to fill your empty mould..
Sometimes we find something or someone which matches our needs..
Nonetheless all glitters are not gold!!
Spend your time wisely with your fantasies
They were never yours and they can never be
The cravings have an unprecedent nature
The more you yearn the more you are bowled
Forgiveness is a rare phenomenon which very a few practice
With a grudge held hard at the heart
They drag it too far increasing manifold..
Regrets hold no past and future tense but only present is what it knows
That too with the irony of holding the most memorable moments and a story untold
Its passes away with the matter of time
The desire looses it taint n flutters away becoming old
Carry as less burden of regrets as you can in life
It overshadows the best of you and the 100 percent which you could behold
Experience, smile, move on...as change is the only constant
Mold with the situation,grow with time, flex with the surroundings for a stronger foothold.

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Do you standup for yourself?

We as human beings have been so closely knit with the society and people around that sometimes we forget our own identity ..likes...desires..freedom.
.opnions...choices...even the daily frame of things!

Being emotional and not that strong headed I fear everyday of being diminished, I fear to loose out my voice behind the opinions, I fear to be numb and mentally blocked where my mind is driven my other people's decision. I have to constantly remind myself to stand by my beliefs and choices.

We are always taught to live an ideal life and not what we wish to live, and this notion is imbibed so well in us that as a parent I expect the same from my kid, n off late I realised that I am scraping off my son's own personality but expecting idealism from him. I am now trying to let him be what he is ofcourse the mistakes and tantrums are unacceptable but I want him to take his own shape..

Influences are everywhere  whether with friends, relatives or neighbours ; but influences should be welcomed according to you is most appropriate in your nature of things! The rights and wrongs of anything  are still undefined and much debated about. So listen to your heart and go with the flow!

I have experienced this that everyone suits to their own convenience stand by yourself and suit your requirements , this is how it goes in life,  because everyone is experiencing their own situations which are individualistic and too different.

Next time you feel shy, judgemental or opinionated please feel free to put your feet down and stand for yourself , you have seperate boundaries...liberties and likes , even if people around you don't agree to your taste give a damn and stand for yourself  even if you are standing alone ..cheers!