Monday, February 29, 2016

Wanted ----- "Compassion"

Sometimes while crossing a particular street or even our neighborhood beach I cease to understand the kind of inequality our world faces, why there are no equal parameters to live in this world. The rich become more rich and the poor more poorer. They say to stabalise the economy we want both kind of sections in the society but what kind of stabalisation are we talking about when the treatment towards humanity is totally unfair. Last weekend I happen to visit a beach nearby which happens to be beautiful otherwise was fully covered with the layer of filth including plastics...wrappers...bottles and what not. After looking at the whole place I was wondering what will be the plight of the cleaners will be who clean the whole beach everyday, being a rich country they can afford to have lot of Asian crowd to work for them in a very reasonable prices; still its so unfair to them what kind of social behavior is that where one person attains a position of such a strata that he doesn't thinks twice before messing the place up and not only that what happened to our so called environment friendly approach? What about all the remarks and comments people debate for on global warming! It really melts down my heart to see that there are people who don't even get one meal per day and then there are people who just waste the whole feast away, although there are lot of programs which are now channelizing the food being wasted to the needy. But do you thing that only a chunk of people can achieve the task? When the humankind started everything revolved around food from hunting to inventing fire, then later it was said that all the wealth is finally needed to for eating a times meal, but as a human being we evolved and evolved and then we reached another level where food is still the bare minimum but the focus has shifted from how to earn the meal ; to how to strike a deal. I wish we became more considerate and compassionate to our fellowkind,hold a little more responsibility towards environment and instead of making a big deal out of pity things in our surroundings lets take a bit more charge of how can we contribute more in making others life better keeping this planet in consideration and atleast not for granted! Pic Source: Tumbler

Friday, February 5, 2016

Parenting's Archetype

The many manifestation we infuse in our parenting style , we still fall short to achieve the impeccable one!
Of all the parenting styles we have been seeing through the years.We as young and new parents pick up an al-a-carte of the parenting,learning largely from our own parents and choosing up the best bits from our neighbourhood,discarding the dont's and inculcating the do's to achieve a favourable parenting package.Its a mammoth task ,and discretionary too! Some are too particular and the others are desultory but still everyone is judgemental about it.
But the fact remains that you learn everyday in everyway either from your own mistakes or observing the others. Then you realise there is nothing called an 'Archetype' in parenting. Its a lifestyle you opt atleast till the 20 year project ends!One of the yogic leaders  recently said that having kids is a 20 yr project, thats true too but as Indians we just keep pulling the strings until we can,because we are scared to let go off.
As a helicopter mom hovering over the kids for almost everything starting from implanting a morning ritual in kids to making them thanking God in the night before they sleep, all this to shape them up to make them what we are not today but could have been!
Parenting is indeed tricky and it grows with the stages...with a preschooler and baby-cum-toddler ,i have realised that only one way is not "the" have to hit and miss and again hit and miss and finally you catch up with the formula.
Parenting is a practice...which makes you better with time like a wine,sometimes you have to deal with it even when you have no energy  to think about it, and sometimes it just flows with the criterion of being yourself.
An archetype is difficult to construct as you are restrained with people around to  judge...the world around whose moving so fast...the technology around which is so demanding ....a nuclear household which entirely depends on you...a career which has been waiting for a while getting distant everytime you look at kids with an atomic absorption rate..grandparents( a great source of learning )and grandchildren so far apart that only meet once or twice a year.Basically the 2 kiddos are only on disposal of their Mom and Dad for the wisdom of life..which is unfair on the parenting part!
And by the way for the parenting package i have chosen is so far so good with the way i have learnt to relax a bit, imbibe a bit..take it slowly one bit at a time...enjoy your young motherhood and try to shape them the best you can without setting the archetype...just let them follow their heart, urge them to be grounded , imbue them with humbleness and never let them forget their roots...all the best guys and make your own archetype...Happy parenting!